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Tenebrak, man. There's no shame in asking for help. There is nobody more worthy or less worthy. You are a human being. Half of the reason we have evolved to this point is because we've gotten in groups and known to ask for help. So please, do it. And if you think you're not sure of where to put it, or the proper format, I can post it for you.

Edit: Antamania wrote it much better than me.
 
Tenebrak said:
As for Reddit - let me be honest...I have no idea how it works or what its for. A friend of mine tried to explain it to me but I cant see how my story would get any attention whatsoever.

Plus - the more places I publicize my own story - the more I feel that shame and guilt for basically nominating myself for an award.

I was raised to never ask for help - and now that I have been turned away from every mainstream option - I turned to a more radical measure like this fundraiser...but I feel like although my story is sad - there are others more worthy of mainstream help.
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You still need to try using Reddit. You will not get anywhere close to $15,000 from this forum, we are too small and most of the users here are underage.

There is a chance you will get ridiculed, but that is better than letting all the donations you collected from here go to waste without a single treatment because you were too proud to do everything you could.
 
Bottiger said:
You still need to try using Reddit. You will not get anywhere close to $15,000 from this forum, we are too small and most of the users here are underage.

There is a chance you will get ridiculed, but that is better than letting all the donations you collected from here go to waste without a single treatment because you were too proud to do everything you could.
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You have a good point. I will try to figure out how reddit works and try posting there...I will have to put aside my discomfort a bit more. You're right - pride needs to take a back seat here.

Thank you so much, guys and gals - I'm fighting the good fight.
 
I'm glad to hear that you are going to make the right choice.

Here is what you should do.
  • Proof read your submission for a few hours before submitting it and make it as compelling as you can.
    Lay out as much proof as you can for your condition to get rid of any detractors.
  • Try to get someone with an account that isn't brand new to submit it or it may get caught in a spam filter.
  • Submit the story early in the morning (6 AM Eastern) on a weekday.
  • Ask for upvotes the moment you submit it. Some of us that have Reddit accounts here may be able to help you out.
    Any story that doesn't get upvotes in the first hour will never get more than a few views.
 
Enigma said:
So we can assume he was just making it all up?
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Let's not assume the worst of the fellow, there might be a logical reason for said deletion. I was just curious and I was hoping he would provide some answers, I was going to give 50 today since I finally got paid.
 
KillerZebra said:
he just took down everything that had to do with him and getting help for cancer.
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I am sorry, my friends - but my plea for help has impacted more than just my own world.

I received a phone call from my spouse's family last night and discovered that they felt shame - and were getting berated by members of their community.

In order to preserve the relationship between my spouse and her family, unfortunately I made the decision to take down my fundraiser.

I have made many sacrifices in my life in the name of preserving balance. My travels and teachings around the world have led me to an understanding that I cannot exist in a world where I create terrible disruption.

I have decided to stop fighting my illnesses and take my remaining life into a more private realm.

Thank you very much to all the kind souls who added their thoughts and wishes to my struggle, I can never properly express what you have done for me.

A special thank you to KillerZebra and the other Skial admins - you listened to my story, believed in me and were willing to put your faith behind a total stranger in need.

It is rare to find such kindness in a world that has become so cold.

I am sorry for any trouble I caused.
 
I wish you most luck with the rest of your life good sir. And killerman164, don't be such a dick, let the guy keep the money, he needs it more than you.
 
Tenebrak said:
I received a phone call from my spouse's family last night and discovered that they felt shame - and were getting berated by members of their community.
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The hell? Where do you live? Who are these people?
 
Tomatketchup said:
I wish you most luck with the rest of your life good sir. And killerman164, don't be such a dick, let the guy keep the money, he needs it more than you.
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I disagree, it's a perfect legitimate if not poorly worded question. There are two things that have happened in this thread, I will list them by likelihoods.
A) He was a scammer
B) He's giving up on further treatments.

If I donated money to him, I would graciously ask for it back in either case - the fact that his pages disappeared just a day or two after he posted his plea is fishy, the fact he never explained said "loopholes" to us that resulted in him being declined for SSI (even with the help of an attorney, while he was dying) He also distinctly said he wasn't going to defend his condition, I'm saying as a logical person the situation sounds fishy - if this man was a panhandler in the street with this same story...would you donate to him?

I have spoken up for this fellow, and even told others don't judge him too harshly until we know more, for all we know it's a perfect legitimate claim but I don't feel I'm incorrect in the situation. The story about him taking down donations because his in-laws are ashamed he's requesting help is not satisfactory to me, I don't buy it at all.

I'm sorry if I'm coming off a cynical prick, but this is how it looks from my perspective having read your responses, looked into the facebook pages and such while they were still up, this just seemed like a scam. If I am wrong I apologize - but even if I am wrong, shouldn't you still be refunding the money since you aren't going to be needing it?

And on the off chance I'm wrong and this is all legit, look at it from an outsiders perspective and see how fishy the story sounds, and then add in every page you linked asking for straight money disappearing, your fear of posting on reddit, the unsatisfactory reason you've just given us for taking down the pages...it just doesn't sit right for me. I hope I didn't come on more harsh than I intended incase this is a real situation, but understand my points.
 
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Why the hell would people berate your spouse's family because YOU asked for help to fight cancer.
 
I apologize, it looks terrible - but I removed the site because the negative attention was impacting more than just me - not because I did anything wrong, immoral or illegal.

I have stated from the start that this was a desperate attempt by be to get some help with my medical costs, not a sponsored charity.

As for the refunds to those who donated - let me be very clear on this point: Those who donated to my cause did so of their own free will, they made a personal decision to donate to me - directly.

My largest benefactors were personal friends from my life, and those who donated 10 - 20 dollars are absolutely appreciated...but I hope you aren't so petty as to ask for it back.

The money is still going to be used to get me medical help, what little of it there is.

If you still believe this was all an elaborate scam - I want you to ask yourself a simple question...

To what end?

Why would I put my personal life up on the web, use my own unique name and personal history - possibly putting my own safety and reputation at risk?

To make a huge score of 15 grand and do what...retire to Mexico for 6 months?

Use a little logic, let me fade into the shame I caused for myself and please let me be.

I apologized and feel nothing but remorse for the negative impact I caused on others. If you don't believe I have cancer, or actually needed your help - then I can't ever change how you will feel.

Those of you who have a heart that is open for others in my situation will still understand.

I hope I am still welcome in your gaming community. If not, then I bid all of you to fare well in life, and thank you for taking the time to read my words.
 
Tenebrak said:
Words.
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That's it however though isn't it - you didn't put your personal life on the web. We don't know anything about you, you didn't even bother to fully explain why the government turned you down for aid, I don't even know your first name, the only thing I know about you is some guy named Tenebrak says he has cancer. If you want to prove you aren't a scammer, refund those "petty" people who ask for the money they gave you for treatment you aren't pursueing.
 
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