Several things in this post that I feel should be addressed.
First, admins shouldn't be harassing other users. They should be setting an example, if anything.
As for people taking sides, let them. As long as they don't stir up shit over it. It's not rocket science to figure out when somebody's being a colossal douchebag. If we had a rule that was simply put "show other users a remedial level of basic respect", then we could crack down on people who cross the line and take the fun out of playing the game.
Personally, I think Skial's server rules are too lax. People get away with a lot of shit. I mean, let's be honest. The only real rules that are ever enforced around here are "No hacking" and "No racism". And even then, people still manage to bend those rules and get away with it. I've seen people come in the servers with an admin present and start spraying the most visually offensive, pornographic images left and right, and nobody ever seems to do anything about that. I mean, I get that some people have sprays with chicks with huge racks, but nobody ever really wants to see an animated spray of 2girls1cup. Ever.
I mean, let's look at some other gaming networks which have super lax rules. Lotus, NightTeam, HellsGamers, etc. Those are garbage servers that nobody who actually respects the game would ever play regularly on. The only time I play on one of those servers is when quality servers like Skial are offline, or when I'm just too drunk to open the favorite list and just hit quick-play.
Also, TF2 is rated T.